What Tadoo WIth Fear (1988)

Once Upon a Time something very scary happened to me that's me my name's Samantha it all started out one night when I was home alone with my babysitter that's my babysitter Lori I liked her a lot but that night something happened that I didn't like it scared me I didn't know what to do I'm not supposed to have anybody over hang on a second I got an idea Sam yeah you're usually supposed to go to bed at 9:00 right right how'd you like to stay up an extra hour tonight really yeah listen this is what we're going to do you come over before I knew what happened I traded keeping a secret about ly's boyfriend being there for staying up late and having some extra ice cream that was the good part good night the scary part came later [Music] [Music] where's the bathroom down the hall it's your last door [Music] right hey shouldn't you be in bed yeah what you reading I like your teddy bear here want some beer no it's good for you okay I'll give some to your teddy bear first Jeff it's on the right I remember lying there scared I didn't tell anybody here you go sweetie take these to your room would you okay and then come write back down and I'll fix you an early dinner why don't you remember your father and I are going to go to a meeting downtown tonight and I called Lori and she said she'd be happy to come over is something wrong no [Music] I was confused I didn't want to be a tattletail and get Lori in trouble but I was afraid her boyfriend would come back again I'm scared Theodore I don't know what to do now you do who are you we what to do I'm what I'm to do then tell me what to do sounds like you need to tell someone like your mother but I can't why not I'm afraid I'll get in trouble well knowing what to do certainly wouldn't do you any good if you're afraid to do it you've got to learn to act if it's ever going to get any better learn to act yes indeed it sounds like she needs to go to the professor's acting class mhm yes how do I do that just close your eyes and wish you were [Music] there can I open them now by all means where am I in acting class my dear who are you I am Professor sir Hillary Von cop I see that you've already met what and to do yeah so why are you afraid to tell your mother about what happened with your babysitter and her boyfriend I don't know yes you do I guess I don't want to get in trouble for staying up late aha it sounds like you're afraid she's probably afraid of getting her babysitter in trouble too well it's okay to be afraid it is my oh my yes why fear can be a very good friend really just look I'm fear I'm always near if you've got something you're afraid of I'll make you stumble when you walk I'll make you Mumble when you talk if you've got something you're afraid of I'm really here to be your pal my job is to keep you safe and happy I'll help you learn I'll help you grow I'll help you figure which way to [Music] go it looks like he wants to take you to the land of what if the land of What Not what what if like what if this happened or what if that happened you see fear can help you think ahead when you learn to use what if you can find out what to do in different situations before they even occur go on go on inside hey that's my name that's where I live and that's my cat's name we use it as a secret password you see you already know about what if I do certainly these are important things you need to know if you ever got lost by already knowing them you're prepared in case anything should happen fear is helpful by preparing us ahead of time as long as we remember to use our support system our what your support system all the people in your life that are there to help you when you need it you mean like my mom and dad yes and there are many others too can you think of some H my grandma and my teacher and your school nurse and your best friend's mom and the police and the fire department if you need them that's a lot of people and I'm sure you could think up a lot more these are people you can turn to when you have a problem or better yet before you have a problem what do you mean by what giing [Music] look come on Walter it's time for bed daddy why does someone tried to get into the house at night should I get one of your guns no absolutely not you should never touch a gun or knife or anything that you could hurt yourself with but what if someone was really breaking in would you want to shoot your brother by accident no would you want to trip while carrying a weapon and hurt yourself no would you want the gun taken away from you and used on you no there are much safer ways of protecting yourself than using a weapon use your brains get help you can always call the neighbors or the police if you really need to okay okay you see what iing is a powerful tool but you're the only one who knows what you want to know you're the one who has to ask if you're concerned about something but what if it's about something that's already happened you can use your wh ifs there too mom yes what if someone told me that her dad was beating her up all the time but told me not to tell anyone ooh that sounds like somebody's calling for help and it's something you should tell me about but that's tattling no you see tattling is telling to get somebody in trouble but telling is when you want to try to get someone help do you understand understand the difference now if someone's father is hurting them it sounds like they both need help and if you know you may be the only person who can help them so you need to tell do you understand yeah but what if it's something you did what if you might get in trouble let's [Music] see Dad what if somebody at school found some drugs and didn't tell anyone about it that could be very dangerous what if someone else came along maybe younger like your little brother and wound up taking the drugs but what if that someone put the drugs in their locker well that's not a good idea they should turn them into a responsible adult right away telling the truth is always the best way to stay out of trouble you see you can always use what if to test the water so to speak to see what people think about something but finding out what to do and doing it can be two entirely separate matters knowing what to do doesn't do you any good unless you're prepared to act that's when fear can try to be more than your friend he can try to be your boss I'll show you what I mean I'm fear I'm always near if you've got something you're afraid of I'll make you stumble when you walk I'll make you my Mumble when you talk if you've got something you're afraid of I just love to be in control to tell you what to do and when to do it so if you want to stick with me that's the way it's got to be because my gain is your loss and I just love to be your boss well what do you think would you like that for a boss no well you're not alone there when my fear comes to stay with me it doesn't need a bed because my fear stays up all night long scaring me in my head when my fear pulls me all around I often trip and fall and then I don't feel so very good as if I'm 1 in tall when my fear comes to see me he likes to block the sun I don't feel too happy and I don't have too much fun my fear says it'll keep me safe and I guess sometimes that's true I'd only wish it'd go away when it's job is through I don't want to wind up like them but I'm still not sure what to do that's why you're here in order to learn how to find out what to do in certain situations and how to act a c t a admit you're afraid C call on your inner strength T tell someone so you can get some help no then watch [Music] this well if you tell on your father he's probably going to beat you up it's not like I'm not afraid of that it's just that I can't stand it anymore well you you must have done something wrong you must have done something you shouldn't do maybe I did but that doesn't mean he hit me like that but but but but but what if what if he's arrested and take him away I don't want that to happen I just want the hitting to stop and it's not going to stop if I keep letting you stop me Mr marman yes [Music] Brandon I need to tell you about something but it's scary it's about my father what about him well lately he's been hitting me real hard how hard look oh my goodness your father did this to you are they going to take him away no I don't think so but if your father's been hitting you that hard he has a problem and he needs some help his hitting you like that isn't okay and and it's got to stop it was very brave of you to come and talk to me about this I know how hard it was on you let's go and talk to the school nurse and have take a look at you then I'd like you to talk to some people from children's Protective Services they'll know what to do to help you and your [Music] father you see when you're acting from your heart when you're liking yourself everyone gets helped but what if maybe it was your fault then what do you do if someone older is frightening you or threatening you or hurting you or making you feel uncomfortable it's never your fault that's why you always have the right to say no get away and tell someone no matter what but that right doesn't do you any good unless you act even if you feel fear breathing down your neck but fear's a lot bigger than me it only appears that way if you look him in the eye and make up your mind to Be Your Own Boss fear doesn't have a chance but you always have to take the first step you have to act you can always count on your support system and when you do why then you can let go of your fear and your fear can let go of you look fear it's something we can live with fear it's okay to be afraid fear just make sure that you express it fear and send it on its way but if you let it stop you from doing what you know you ought to do then it will become your boss and things will get worse before they're through fear it's something we can live with fear it's okay to be afraid fear just make sure that you exess it fear and it on then you are free to live your life the way it ought to be with love ands and lots of Joy it'll be world for you and so what do you say are you ready to give it a try you mean talk to my mother about what happened mhm you can do it you know what to do you've got the right to take care of yourself you're really helping everybody you know what's right even if it's scary you can always let go a fe no one said it would always be easy but it's always worth it now run along it's time to really act good luck bye-bye you're not really going to do this are you L's your friend are you going to get her in trouble I don't know but what I do know is I'm going to take care of me that's what I'm going to [Music] do hi Mom hi sweetie apple pie no I'm making applesauce mom what if I broke a rule and something scary happened well I guess it depends on what happened and what the rule was off hand I'd say that something scary is more important than most rules so I guess I deal with scary part and let you decide what to do about the broken rule would you get mad I might but it doesn't mean that I don't love you what's going on I don't know but I don't want Lori to babysit me anymore okay why I knew I had to tell even though I was scared it was the only way to make sure it didn't happen again and it didn't my mom promised not to have Lori babysit anymore and she told me that I was tricked and it wasn't my fault boy did I feel better I'm sure there will always be scary things but that's okay because I know what to do [Music]