If only we'd known (1979)

[Music] la [Music] I was sick this morning Terry was it yeah who else wouldn't do it if anyone else does he know no not yet he's got that pleasure to come will he be off like a shot soon as he finds out like the fellas that I know Linda he different from the rest of the blocks honest he is anyway it's not his problem is he is your mom now not yet she lit the roof dad probably sling me out anyway God Linda what am I going to do well there's lots of things you can do I mean what is it you have to sit in a hot bath and drink a bottle of gin oh God the smell of gin just makes me sick anyway it wouldn't be as easy as all that after 2 months would it Hey listen Debs you ever thought of having an abortion I could do that that's too official isn't it it mean telling people about it and then me Mom and Dad would know it doesn't have to be official what you mean listen I reckon I know someone who could sort that one out for you what you mean a back street abortion yeah my God you know what they say about those don't you anyway I might get killed where would I get the money from for a star God n I'm just so frightened what's Mom and Dad going to say then what they going to say at school when it starts to show I won't worry about that it doesn't show for ages you can keep it hidden for years but don't you think I should go and see a doctor S I mean I'm only 16 still a kid myself exactly you got nothing to worry about about I mean okay if you was 45 you go see a doctor but there were kids of 14 having babies in the olden days with no problems at all if I went to see a doctor then I'd know for certain one way or the other wouldn't I yeah right so would your parents you'd be straight off to see your mom and dad yeah but I was wondering if you had a word with your doctor it'd send me on the sideline I don't have a doctor really but I thought soon as you were pregnant no I don't all with doctors you me not after what happened with me old mom you know she she she never saw a doctor in her life she never needed one and she got this swelling right and the neighbors persuaded her to go and see the doctor and he put her into Hospital a week later she died if wasn't for Doctor she'd be allive to tell you the story herself yeah but Bill I mean he must be worried about you no he don't all with doctors either but if I went to see a doctor then it' told me for certain If I Was Pregnant wouldn't he listen you don't need doctors to tell you how to have a baby oh mom had five of us she never needed a doctor she didn't go off to hospital like they all do now listen there's always going to be somebody around who knows someone to give you a hand but you must be frightened not half as frightened as I'd be of all those doctors and all those forms to fill in and all those nurses looking down their nose at you I didn't fan the idea of seeing a doctor anyway I mean thought of the examination is enough to put you off isn't it right you never be able to call your body your own again they lay you out Stark naked and prod you and shove things into I bet you Terry have something to say about that you'll have to know I mean I'll have to tell him sooner or later would't I after all this is sp as much as mine is it I mean I don't see why I should have all the problems by myself but I don't think I can bring myself to go and see a Dr Linda Oh don't go looking for trouble probably just a false alarm anyway I never meet trouble halfway that's what me old mom always used to say so what do you think about the advice I gave Debbie should a girl be worried if she misses two periods and what would have happened to me if I done like she said drank a bottle of jeans sitting in a hot bath is Debbie Too Young at 16 to have a baby and just how dangerous are back street abortions anyway are doctors and nurses really as terrifying as all that and will they tell your parents if you're pregnant doctors are there to help you here's a real doctor talking to a girl who's got the same kind of problem as Debbie your F EV I don't think we've met have Fiona I know that your mother registered about two or 3 months ago wasn't it yes she registered you in the family I saw her once but I don't think I've ever seen you what's the trouble F don't feel very well headache sick can't sleep do very well how long's this been going on for about two months two months that's quite a long time you normally a fairly fit girl have you ever been in hospital before for any reason or had any serious illnesses in the past no had my tonsils out but that's fairly fit girl are you yes you look a bit worried and you look a bit depressed is anything worrying you or upsetting you I've not had a period for eight weeks mhm normally your periods are quite regular are they yeah any possibility of your being pregnant yeah there a definite possibility of this have you been feeling sick yes M passing water any more frequently yeah you haven't discussed this with your mother I take it and you haven't discussed it with any other members of the family I can't take my pents or your boyfriend yeah yes um I think probably the best thing I can do is to examine you CU I should be able to tell at this stage whether in fact you are pregnant and then we can talk about this afterwards it's quite a simple examination it's just examining internally it's not going to hurt you now you just slip the bottom part down and just lie on your side on the couch over there and I'll come over when you're ready thank you [Music] now what I want you to do fanaa is to just roll over on your left side and draw your knees up toward your chest okay just on your left side that's fine jolly good just bring your bottom over a little bit further towards me that's fine and bend both knees up towards the chest now look I'm not going to hurt you I'm just going to lay a hand on your tummy and I'm going to examine you inside it's not going to hurt you at all and I just want you to try and relax I know it's easier said than done but try your best okay open your mouth really wide and take some deep breaths in and out okay now I'm just going to examine you inside there we are okay just take it easy that's fine that's jolly good all over good okay you can get yourself dressed up get yourself dressed up now come in and see me and then we'll have a talk about things okay well there's no doubt about it Fiona you are definitely pregnant no doubt whatsoever um I suppose you pretty certain of this anyhow before you came along to see me have you discussed this with anyone have you talked it over with your mother I couldn't tell her she's so proud of me she she couldn't she would understand she what am I going to do be so upset she's going to be upset of course she's going to be upset she wouldn't be very much of a mother if she wasn't don't you agree but because she's upset doesn't mean to say that she won't be caring and won't want to help you and have you got no one you can discuss this with look I'm not going to tell your mother or anyone else without your permission whatever we say here is completely confidential do you understand you w't tell anybody else I wouldn't even be allowed to tell anyone even if I wanted to not that I'd want to anyhow so you can understand the problem but although I won't tell your parents I've got no intention of doing so there's not really very much one can do unless you discuss it with them do you understand yeah now look what I want you to do is this biona I want you to try and pluck up courage go back home and talk it over with your mother or if you can't talk it over with your mother how about your elder sister but it's important to speak to someone about this and hopefully I'd like to see you next week with your mother or your sister and we can talk about what we're going to do okay yeah thank you all right come along and see me next week and I'm sure things are not nearly as black as you think they are [Music] la [Music] la you're queing up for a second go are you most of us can't get back home quick enough no I'm just waiting for someone I've got ages to wait yet I told me boss I was picking me granny up from the hospital well it's so difficult to get time off work I D tell him I'm pregnant again oh not be first then no I can see it's yours though you're a bit young to be having a baby aren you yeah that's what everyone keeps telling me mind you I feel you know better now that I'm safe hands with the clinic kind of thing they'll look after you all right all right so it was ter ni my boyfriend he persuaded me to come along along and I'd never come otherwise I was much too frightened how' your parents feel about it can't d h the roof mean I don't know which is the worse dad and he just ignores me pretends I'm not there that's for me mom well she just keeps going on and on about it the whole time just drives me up the wall yeah well they'll come around when you bet the baby no one can resist a baby you'll see I hope so still I wish I'd resisted this one oh didn't you want it then well we hadn't planned it properly I mean we didn't want another one so soon after the first girl at work told me I couldn't get pregnant while I was breastfeeding well she was wrong still wouldn't have mattered it if I had to go back to work but Eric he's my husband well he's been off work for weeks they had this unofficial strike at the factory well somebody's got earn the money that's why I didn't tell me boss I'm pregnant again well what with one baby at home and having to work and another one on the way it just gets too much sometimes it's all right for you must be joking you should have seen the embarrassment of a school it's absolutely awful mind you it's such a Rel all that's over now it's always like that after the first one they ask you such funny questions don't they they want to know all about your family's medical history whether anybody's everever had a deformed child and what diseases are de then they started going on about Terry's family you know I never knew I never had the fogus did I they kept on going on about vaccinations you know whe they never been vaccinated against German Measles me I couldn't remember got ask me Mom I suppose and that start all of her off again anyway why' you have to be vaccinated I don't know but the meture I was after my last pregnancy M then they started asking personal questions I got really embarrassed you know whether i' ever read a vaginal discharge or VD certainly not I told him and then L the CH to ask me if I was ever on the pill I mean I wouldn't be in this condition if I had have done would I and they started going on about drugs and tranquilizers and all that dying for a cigarette hey you mustn't smok in here like a fit God anyway supposed to be bad for you baby I said I'd give it up it's so hard isn't it yeah don't know what's keeping Terry said it be here how's he feel about it a I think he could have died at first but you know he's getting really good there like he's facing up to facts mind you he's B picking me up from this place yeah well he's probably outside pacing up and down trying to get out the courage to come in Hope be H's up cuz I'm starving mind you I've got to watch me food from now on you know no fatty foods and sweets and all that isn't it yeah I found that the hardest part so rotten all those lovely things are so bad for you what you now I got you didn't I any are be nice talking sh you don't have to wait too long bye it's enormous it's just like a bus did they really let you have it I'm a try and Trust the employee now but you've only been there two months perhaps they think I'm a credit to the firm listen anyway I've got loads of questions to ask you about what I don't know they want you know all about you at the clinic me why I don't know your family's medical histry and all that I mean how should I know what's my family got to do with it takes two to make a baby do you know yeah I know I want to know by now where better be going listen do you think we should tell your mom tonight she's got to know sooner or later hasn't she yeah that's what I said [Music] the [Music] what kept you quick station at the bingo that number 107 bus kept me 45 bloody minutes at that bus stop and that long walk from the clinic and it's freezing what oh yeah first today by the time the bus came I was so desperate for a smoke I even managed to all myself [Music] upstairs where's Mandy mom not bought a back yet she found about half an hour ago I said i' had no idea when you'd be in so she said she'd look after her this evening as well he thought we could go out for a change you know down the cherry tree see some of the gang yeah will you go if you like I've got to rest up a bit what do you mean what they've been telling you down the clinic then well they think I've been overdoing it and they're worried about me blood pressure they said I got to take it easy for a while we were thinking about what do they mean by that take time off work probably only be a week only a week so uh what you going to tell him at the factory truth I suppose you can't do that You' be out like a shot I mean look what they said to Patty this is a factory you know not a nursing home I mean there are dozens of girls who could do your job l no I'm sorry you can't pack it in just now you couldn't manage without your wages anyway they said I might be harming the baby by over doing it so much but we agreed that you'd go on working right up until the last minute after all M had one of hers practically on the shop floor well it's only what they said a they make a lot of fuss about nothing down there got now better to do they're paid to tell you things like that I mean there's not a chance in a million that anything's going to go wrong you were all right last time yeah well I did what they said didn't I didn't stop more they didn't know didn't do you any arm no but what about Jenny's baby they said that's cuz she smoked so much coincidence pure coincidence thousand things could have caused that I don't know I know something though I've Got The Willpower to give it up no matter what they say you worry too much you know you shouldn't let them get you down after all kids would being born for thousands of years before the clinics came yeah but just think of all the kids that died in the olden days or or we deformed or that they've got you in a right morbid mood tonight haven't they that couldn't happen to us come on let's get down the pub to cheer you up a bit yeah that's another thing they said alcohol is bad for the baby too I'm supposed to give that a rest I we only have a few little what you fancy does you good you know hey and then I thought we could go out and have a nice slap up meal somewhere e it sounds nice yeah and forget all this stuff about resting up and all that just for a while I mean we do need your wages and it won't do you any harm yeah I suppose you're right yeah I don't know what I'm going to tell him at the clinic though well why tell him anything hey look why don't you put off your next appointment for a bit I mean that's what wears you out traing up down there all the time it's a nuisance yeah yeah I'll think of something good L come on get your skates on let's go down the P now that look looked like a really cozy little family scene didn't it but just think about what happened was I really trying to look after her or was I just getting my own way the first thing I did was to offer her a cigarette is smoking really a risk for a pregnant woman should I really have told Sarah to go on working right up to the last moment before the birth of the baby do clinics really make a lot of fuss about nothing does a woman need advice about having a baby and which is really more important the Y evening out at the pub or making sure your baby's born sound and healthy