Hygiene For Men - Decision Is Yours (1970)

[Music] dear bill I don't exactly know how to begin this all I know is I sure wishu is still here and not back at that navy base I need you Bill I need to talk to you you see I feel sure I'm in trouble know what I mean I'm 3 weeks late something that's never happened before and I've thrown up the past three mornings I know mother's suspicious she hasn't said anything yet but I know what she's thinking oh bill what am I going to do I don't want to have a [Music] baby [Music] I thought you told me you love me I do Bill you know I do well it's a matter then it's just it's just you really don't huh oh bill I do I really do then then show me oh Bill what what are we going to do I know you don't want to get married and I don't really either I guess but what else can we do I can just hear my parents now no Mary how could you have done such a thing I'd like to get my hands on that boy that's what I'd like to do i' oh bill how could you let this happen to me well you sure have screwed things up what's it doing to you how do you feel about this confused and guilty too maybe yeah I can't figure out how it happened I thought those things are supposed to work maybe you were careless besides no birth control thing is absolutely foolproof didn't you know that if I didn't I'm learning look man why don't you leave him alone he had a little bad luck that's all bad luck you call getting a girl pregnant bad luck so maybe things didn't work out the way we expected could have happened to anybody yes it could but it happened to him and it didn't have to happen yeah yeah I know just what you're going to say Phil shouldn't play around with girls well he didn't have to carry it this far he knew when to stop yeah sure he did you're always trying to stop him from having a good time now that's not true I only try to stop him from doing things he'll be sorry for later will you look at him look will you two guys just knock it off all you're doing is Mak me more confused [Music] B hey get with it man I don't know why you let yourself get so upset anybody can make a mistake yeah then why do I feel so bad you know why because accident or no accident you're not very proud of what you've done deep down you know that there are values like self resect honesty decency the Commandments that everyone has to live by that are important to you as an individual and a people you're with values that's Sunday school stuff come on Bill you're living now and now is when you got to live if it feels good do it hey waitress bring me some more beer okay just a minute you still giving advice haven't you got him in enough trouble listen to the man you don't dig do here he's just trying to establish his own sense of identity it's all part of a part of a master plan he's young he's healthy wants to try things out to live a little right bill I'll go along with you there but that doesn't mean hurting yourself or other people I say it's his life let him have fun yeah but your idea of fun is full of traps and problems well to go along with you a guy really has to God there's Joe I told him I had the duty tonight the bill over there all by himself I wonder what's gotten into him lately I don't know he sure isn't his usual cheerful self something's sure eating him up I'd say your idea of fun is cutting in on the kind of fun Bill really needs look if he listened to you he wouldn't control anything he did look at you always with a cigarette is that what you want him to do even though it's bad for his health and can even shorten his life it's your job to tell him things like that mine is to help him have fun Bill you've already seen how your fun can come back and haunt you it's like that with all your habits take smoking remember when you checked into Sick Bay with a cold what' the doctor say okay Bill you can get dressed you've got a honey of a chest cold bronchitis really and you're aggravating it by smoking you say you're going through more than two packs a day yes sir I guess so I've been kind of tense lately well you're going to have to knock off the cigarettes till we get this chest congestion cleared up maybe by then you can kick it entirely maybe but I doubt it well it's your decision but let me tell you something about what smoking does many older people suffering from breathing difficulties chronic bronchitis osma lung cancer and heart disease have smoking to thank for it actually lung cancer occurs 20 times more frequently in cigarette smoking smokers than in nonsmokers okay now a deep breath deep breath deep breath deep breath deep deep deep deep deep take it in take it in take it in take it in now push it out hard push push push push push push now Mr walers two months later as you can see your heart hasn't changed much nor have the lungs except for right here in this one spot there's this big circle with a hole in the center of it right in the middle of the left chest right about here now it's come very rapidly in only 2 months this is what we're worried about and why you're here I understand you're a smoker is that correct frankly when you see how many people are sick because of smoking you'd be a fool not to quit well I came up for a couple of weeks and to help get rid of that cough how come you started again why don't you lay off what he needs is to forget his problems not be reminded of them you and I ought to do is get good and smashed there you go again getting bomb never solved anyone's problems and it won't solve bills okay Queen jeans you don't want any beer we'll take care of it for you I'm not against Bill having a couple beers I think it's a good way to relax but when you start talking about getting drunk we're right back to what I was saying before losing control hey cut it out look at that guy over there is that how you'd like to see Bill solve his problems so the guy's a little obnoxious to say the least yeah but he's having fun that's your style of fun I don't see anything wrong with getting a little blasted he's not hurting anybody no one but himself you know what the shrinks say unfortunately a lot of younger people start drinking because it makes them feel grown up the fact is to be grown up a mature adult you need need to act responsibly and too much alcohol makes a person Act irresponsibly of course many people today use alcohol occasionally having one or two social drinks with friends there's really nothing wrong with that the trouble comes when social drinking changes into drinking as an attempt to escape from the problems of everyday life you can tell when this began to happen you begin to drink more frequently you start drinking alone you gulp your drinks you sneak drinks you drink early in the day you begin to lose time on the job you experience periods of tempor orary [Music] Amnesia you lose control of your [Music] behavior you say things you have previously suppressed you behave differently you may finally lose Consciousness when liquor is repeatedly used to this extent there's little doubt that the individual is sick he's become an alcoholic in a similar way the person who tries to handle the everyday problems of Life by using or even experimenting with drugs May soon find that not only has he not solved his problems but much worse he's become saddled with the more serious problem of drug addiction getting hooked on drugs is one sure way of lousing up your life of making each day a hellish nightmare cures for drug addiction or for alcoholism aren't easy much easier is preventing it using self-control right at the beginning self-control that's the way to do it okay okay not completely stupid you know I might smoke little and have a beer or two but well that's it as for drugs well forget it as if I don't have enough of a problem already no thanks to you I keep telling you man it was an accident an accident why should it happen again you're right it won't if Bill uses a little selfcontrol with girls you so blinded by a Lial philosophy of life you don't see how the things a person does today affects what he'll be tomorrow things that can affect his whole future his education a good job even a marriage live now tomorrow will take care of itself that's my motto sure that sounds fine but it's how you live that counts a person has to live with himself first if Bill isn't satisfied with what he is or what he does then what is he really living for nothing but fun brother got it fun that's what he has to live for no wonder I'm so screwed up having to listen to you two guys fighting all the time I'm going to go talk to someone who can help straighten things out for me [Music] it's no wonder you're confused bill it's a confusing world we live in day and night we're bombarded with reminders of sex liquor smoking even drugs it all gets pretty [Music] unreal n n you know Bill it's easy for young people to get lost in this jungle that surrounds all of us but Bill you have to recognize that it's all a big cell life isn't like that and deep inside son you know it now look it's quite normal to question how you want to respond to all this and what kind of life you want for yourself all young men do yeah but most of them haven't gotten themselves in a bind like I have no but they could they had the same things working inside of them just as strong as those inside of you only most of them have learned to control it better than you have Believe It or Not chaplain this was the first time I ever had a girl well it only takes once but it just doesn't seem fair I mean everyone else is messing around everyone without having a great big orgy well yeah listen to the guys in the barracks talk big mouths are the last ones to believe yeah but all I know is when I go and try and find out what it's like well well look what happens the first time can you beat that so have you learned anything yeah but I I didn't want to get married pregnant but what's a guy supposed to do for sex well if he doesn't get it with a girl he likes either he goes out and looks for a pickup or a prostitute or or does something like like masturbate yeah well that's not the answer and you know it masturbation can't hurt you physically or make you insane or anything like that it's just not what I'd call a completely satisfactory sexual experience but what's a guy supposed to do look there's no one answer there's no one style of behavior that'll suit everyone but before you decide get all the facts right now you're in the prime of your life you're seeking independence from your parents you're physically and sexually mature but you're not ready for marriage you have your Navy service to think of and perhaps more education later on a career to plan for at the same time there are always sexual and other influences that need to be controlled there are lots of things to help you control them you can pitch in and do especially good work in your job you can take part in sports and other physical activities you can develop whatever creative talents or interests you might have and you can enjoy girls without going all the way now will it be activities like these that help build your self-respect all it be ones that tend to degrade you the decision is yours you can let yourself drink too much or ruin your lungs or get yourself hooked on drugs or let your natural feelings about sex develop unnaturally or be turned to women who will give you satisfaction for a price you can do all those things if you're willing to to pay the price of possible damage to your health or to your own self-respect here's where a physical danger enters the picture VD [ __ ] and pickups are easy to come by and can just as easily infect you and leave you with a different set of problems unless thoroughly treated VD can cause serious damage to your body it can make a simple act like urinating an excruciating experience and unless completely controlled can eventually lead to sterility or even crippling blindness heart disease insanity and you can pass it on to another girl the girl you marry for instance and give her the same problem but worse because it's harder to find and cure you and the doctor sure make a good case for playing it cool chaplain there's an even stronger case bill and you've made it yourself with Mary yeah but I don't like to think about it you're going to have to think about it it's bad enough that your own future is at stake but look what you've done to her life can you imagine what she must be going through but mother I'm sure bill will marry me if I ask him to oh that's all we need of someone like that for a son-in-law is marriage what you really want Mary what about your plans to finish school is I'm not sure if he really loves me loves you how could he love you only had three dates with you three days oh brother love really takes getting to know one another honey you can say that again and you and Bill just haven't had that chance it may come in time but marriage is no place to experiment don't you know that that half the teenage marriages end up in divorce and you want to know why because you kids get out there and start fooling around and and you end up having get married and it's wrong from the start I don't know what's got into these kids today I wish I could you have to decide honey your father and I can only help you with it what do you want me to do well I don't see how you can have it here your father has a point Mary and don't you think it would be less embarrassing for you I've asked around and I found a place that that can help us we take you there just as soon as the baby starts to show and you can stay there until it's born I don't want to go to a home for unwed mothers but honey they take care of everything they even see that the baby's put up for adoption and you never even have to see it if you don't want to oh mother I'm so ashamed it's usually very lonely for the girls in a home like this bill awfully lonely your name is Wendy where are you from from a little town about 100 miles from here when do you expect your baby in about 3 months does anybody know nobody knows not even the baby father why haven't you told him I try but I just can't do you care for him does he care for you then why are you afraid to tell him well I don't want to make him have to marry me because now I got pregnant I just didn't know who to turn to well maybe we can help you let me tell you about this place this is a home they do everything to help the girls adjust to their predicament to restore their self-respect to keep them busy learning new skills acquiring new interests gaining new insights of themselves but it's not like home it's not like living with husband you love sharing the joy of the new life developing inside you in place of love there's regret in place of hope [Music] Hardy but if you want to know about real loneliness and heartache and despair bill you have to see the children who have been brought into this world illegitimately children hungry for love and attention living daily with a longing that someone from somewhere will love them and take them from here into a home with love in it can you picture your child here good Lord you can marry her I don't want to get married chaplain well I'm not ready to get married and if I don't and Mary decides to keep the baby can they make me support both her and the baby oh yes at least the child until it's 21 oh boy whichever way I turn it'll sure mess up my plans for more schooling you know chaplain I kind of like Mary with a little more time I might have gotten serious well what you did when you dated her was pretty serious but she was wearing this bikini and I just couldn't help myself bill every act that you perform everything that you do accumulates one upon another to make you what you are to make you what you will be now you can choose between actions that you're proud of and ones that you're not and the same holds true with dating now self-control is just as important in dating as it is with everything else it's even more important because somebody else's life is involved of course when you date you should never forget that as a male you have a basically aggressive Instinct you're built to pursue the female and the question is how far do you go should you let go to the animal urge for Conquest to go all the way or do you recognize that you have to control things before they get to the point where they can't be stopped and there is that point you have to realize too that girls also have sex drives a girl may want to be attractive to you but she may not realize how much the way she dresses and behaves excites you sexually she's not as easily aroused and she usually doesn't think of sex in terms of a one night stand she thinks in terms of a longer relationship with tenderness affection and [Music] love if you feed her emotional needs without any serious intent you can take advantage of her but you can't do do it without feeling a sense of guilt because you've deceived her really dating is an important and a very natural relationship between unmarried men and women basic to the human biological urge to look for a mate it's the best way to meet different kinds of girls and to evaluate them as possible mates and let them evaluate you now dating different girls is just the first step later on you Court one girl then marriage and children and raing them in a family environment this is the road that can lead you to an emotional and physical relationship that can endure for years and years it's what most men strive for but it can all be shattered in one single action in one single moment I thought you told me you loved me I do Bill you know I do well it's a matter then it's just it's just you really don't huh bill I do I really do then then show [Music] me