Discipline And Self Control

foreign [Music] schools or wherever young children are together there are discipline problems there are no fixed rules for dealing with them the key to discipline is the Teeter [Music] and the kind of person she is a good teacher doesn't put up with everything but she doesn't suppress children's strong feelings and she is not infuriated by misbehavior she is firm without being harsh gentle without being weak she responds to children without waiting for crises she takes time to listen to talk to laugh with children because she likes you and comes seriously they listen to her first his own check she establishes Trust warmth and respect prevent discipline problems the successful teacher in a bossy nor weak she is a friendly grown-up clearly in charge hello children thrive on respect and approvement whenever they can teachers give warm sincere praise oh that's lovely to me I like the way you did that oh I like that you did it didn't you you did it [Music] teachers don't demand instant obedience they are patient and free with a friendly touch children feel good about themselves when the teachers let them help [Music] next to their parents teachers are the most important adults in the children's lives teachers set examples in manner and in manners if the teacher says please and thank you the children will pick it up Laura can I please have that purple crayons thank you could you pass the basket over to Janine please may I have it thank you such an example of good manners better than an impolite demand for Paul I thought I told you to say please give teachers shove materials around roughly children may do the same thing instead they can learn to take good care of equipment [Music] because when you put them in the box you have to put them in very gently you have to be very careful oh wonderful I knew you could do that all right now and she's going to put the Drum in very good it's like I have them to fit in there and they're a little shine all right there goes yours to be the right kind of person the teacher must organize her program in this room the teachers have set things up in advance so that everything is under control When the Children arrive the teachers are free to welcome and help them become iron teachers plan interesting programs they know that boredom causes discipline problems one kind of activity like doll play is balance like woodwork quietly is balanced by active outdoor play where children can use different muscles the vigorous indoor play but a good program and good materials don't prevent discipline Troubles by themselves thoughtful supervision is essential the head teacher sees to it that there are always grown-ups where they are needed herself or a mother teenage volunteer would you mind taking Eric okay take him into the hallway and find a piercings for him or another teacher teachers of young children cannot supervise from the sidelines they must be warmly involved with children but alert to what is going on all around if there are duplicate toys there will be fewer quarrels over possessions teachers let children know what's coming next we'll give Marty until it gets between the seven and the eight all right and then I come over and say okay I'm Tracy in about five minutes we're gonna put the toys away so would you please finish up what you're doing there's no hurry but think about finishing teacher avoid trouble if they see that children don't get in each other's way these trains keep to a track around the chair [Music] good supervision includes letting children know the rules clearly and simply and if necessary over and over through with the open hunt it goes over there maybe you could pick all those opens up the teacher must decide what is safe well she can jump from right there she doesn't have to climb up that's too hot or too high she establishes rules about where Wheel toys may go Eddie you forgot where the road was we said that it was this way do you remember the highway is all around the black line the rules about taking turns oh wait just a minute wait a minute now wait Gene had it first so please give it back give it to Jay and as James turn now and you use some of these other things and after you have it a little while then I want you to let corporate use it all right and the rules about using water okay let me say something to you keep the water in the kitchen well we'll get we'll wipe it off here's a sponge and I want you to keep the water in the container make it go in the cups stay at the table all these rules help establish the atmosphere of order that children can depend on [Music] you need the same table during juice time Camp come back and sit down even room Arrangement can lead either to trouble or to good discipline at first this looks like a good arrangement there are distinct areas for different activities the huge gymnasium is divided by a wall of closed cubbies but it turns out that the wall invites escape to the far side where the children vanish from View they slip out into the Hall and could even leave the building a separate painting room causes more trouble when the teacher is here she cannot watch any of the other activities the corner for instance often goes unsupervised for a considerable period the children's play can become increasingly disorganized and even potentially dangerous two days later the teachers have changed their room Arrangements the equipment has been moved to the sunny half of the gym Cubbies are against the wall and the easels have been moved in from the other room now that the real attractions are together at one end of this room they children naturally flock where the teachers can help them but even with the best planning troubles do arise [Applause] [Music] what does the teacher deal with them I know how you feel but I can't let you hit him no he stops forbidden Behavior but accepts the child's feelings no it's hard but you can't do it sneaking off with another boy's toy leads to resentment and trouble [Music] all right bye here it is Steven you don't have to hit him you can tell him the teacher stops the fight then makes clear the rule about grabbing and you know Brian is willing to give it to you you can ask him but you can play Come and pull things from people but because she doesn't disgrace or punish the boy he can move on without resentment you want to go over and play with the boys no no all right but you don't go and pull things from people oh she helps him change the subject [Music] a teacher may have to grab a child on the loose but she does not scold angrily as she settles him down she talks to him when he is no longer too upset to her she does not hesitate to remove bodily a misbehaving child but she doesn't resort to punishments the teacher cannot allow this child to leave the room [Music] after he has calmed down she will stress the rules now she knows it's more important to change his angry mood with this boy she uses a light touch a suggestion of new activities and humor to re-establish a constructive atmosphere but good discipline does not mean being harsh an easy mistake to fall into is rigid discipline [Music] now I want you to stand in line just like that now and don't take your hand off the shoulder of the one in front of you a severe teacher can force small children to obey but this only forces troubles Underground put your Handler it belongs Anthony it does not teach self-control it teaches children to hate school and teachers what is this doing on the floor you're a bad girl you know you didn't pick up that Focus because young children who are frightened or are confused do not learn such harsh discipline ruins the Head Start program there's no way to behave if the teacher lays down the law as a friend not an enemy a child can really hear what she is saying he can maintain order and discipline without being harsh different things to do out on that table maybe you'd like to do that but sympathy and avoiding punishment do not mean that Anything Goes teachers should not be lacks or permissive if the teacher is passive or can't decide what to do the result is disorder and Chaos here the teacher tries to keep this boy from moving in on the girl's painting but because inexperience causes her to be too gentle and too hesitant he doesn't pay attention and keeps right on oh [Applause] okay [Music] sometimes a very troubled child like Eddie who cannot control himself needs one adult with him constantly everybody I'm sorry now we've got a job to do this is costly in staff time but it may be necessary for a while yeah we have to put them all back we've got quite a job here we don't need them [Applause] and then I can get it the teacher makes it absolutely clear that he may not attack her [Music] but I can't let you hit me we could go back over at the blocks and maybe get shot Michael was waiting for you over there he's got the beer now look who's dead you know Eddie maybe it's better if you boys work a little bit more apart I think it's a little easier because we don't wet [Music] it is everybody it's because you wet John it's because you're with him he wet you I know my mommy on you but I think you know she knows it's gonna take weeks and months for all this to sink in and become self-control work [Music] and first do you need a little more water John is that what's wrong well you could take this and you could go over and get just a little more water Eddie this is to share where there are several children like this in a group extra teachers or volunteers will be needed this is Charles he is another child who requires special attention though he is not as trouble as Eddie his energy impulsiveness and his suspicion make him a handful he's often at Loose Ends [Music] sometimes he is rough with equipment [Music] Jesus [Music] [Applause] [Music] thank you often he is restless [Music] strikes out tests and evades the teacher [Music] these up because we're going to make some scrambled eggs [Music] I'll show you where they go right here I need a help for putting the blocks away don't put don't kick it when she's on it she'll get hurt let's fix it over here where it belongs give me a helping hand s [Music] to her why why because you might fall and I don't want you to get hurt listen now I want you out of here all together teachers must pay special attention to Charles while trying to keep their tempers [Music] now we have looked at groups and individuals and we have seen the separate elements of discipline and I'll do it but the teacher does not pull out tricks of discipline one by one she has to fit them into all that she is doing and Charles is not all by himself right here the teacher copes with him and the group you know we're gonna take care of them you did take care of the eggs you take care of the paper towel all right it might have something like that good for you Gordon he knows how to do it he likes to do it his way he looks at it and he feels it and he puts it back now it's turned the last one but you can wait you're pretty good at it now it's Charles turn ER wow it went in a hurry didn't it Charles very good thank you there's the point for it whose turn is it next I tell you what she has a paper towel she might give you a piece and you could wipe your hands off let her give it to you thank you Renee here's a way Fest Charles begins to settle down as the teacher puts him into the middle of the activity you following me YouTube thank you that was very good yeah it is hot take the toast out of the dish through many experiences like these Charles realizes that the teachers value him that they recognize his rights too that he need not always Escape or fight [Music] now he accepts the teacher and the rules and the other children more trustingly it's a ballet song and you can dance or you can watch over here with me yeah I have to find the fourth song study now Charles enters more fully into the group's activities [Music] with friendly firm discipline he has become a steadier person out of such discipline comes self-control Charles is beginning to take over for himself foreign [Music] [Applause] [Music] thank you foreign