Bread And Butterflies: Decisions Decisions (1974)

[music] Decisions, decisions, [music] decisions, decisions. Everybody's [singing] got to do it. You got to think through and through it. Before you make up your mind, decide to [music] be kind. Second, then everything's fine. Then everything's fine. You can worry about your problems or put your mind to work and solve them. You can talk to a friend or maybe you're next again. But remember in the end [music] you decide to lose a win. You decide to lose. >> Tommy, >> Tommy, can you go with me to my grandma's to paint her chicken coop? You got to be kidding. Chapman, you ain't going to go with him, are you? >> I might have known that Joy picked the worst time to ask me about going to his grandma's just when all the guys were around. It all started at the end of the summer when my family moved here from Salt Lake. >> You lift it up so it doesn't scratch. Be very careful cuz that's my very favorite. We came here because my dad got a good job as a foreman in a trailer factory. >> Sure you can make that. >> Hi, Mom. Me, too. >> All right. Here, put your arm. >> It was great to be in the country. We had a barn and everything, and I really wanted a horse. >> My parents said it was okay, but I had to earn the money to buy it. >> Can I help? >> Sure, we're glad to have you. >> Okay. And that was how I met Joey. >> Take them into the kitchen. You can come back and get this table later. >> Here it comes. >> Oh, come on. Pass it. Pass it. I'm tired. I'm running. >> I can kick it to you. I'm just out of practice. Joey, if you don't pass it, I'm going to go in and watch TV. >> Joey, lunch is ready. >> Hey, please. I'm just getting some. >> Joey, you could have asked for it to be passed. >> Maybe next time. Please pass the sandwich. The sandwich. Hey, Tommy. My family's going to go to my grandma's nephe sometime this fall. And my mom said you could go with us. My My grandma needs her chicken coup. And she said she'd pay us $20 each if we did a good job. >> Why in the fall, Joey? >> Well, sometime in October, probably. >> Please pass the beans. >> Just for a weekend. We'll decide that with grandma later. Please pass the pickles. She's got lots of apple trees. I could pick some. We could bring you back all you want. Can I go, Mom? >> Can you go? We can always use the apples. You know, we had orchards when I was a little girl. >> Sounds great. Thanks a lot. >> 20 bucks. What a great start I could get towards my horse. I didn't know then there was any reason I wouldn't want to go. >> But the next day I began to find out how the other guys here felt about Joey. >> That wasn't funny. Come on. >> Come on. >> That's fun. >> Yeah. But you know it'll be a lot of fun when I earn the money to buy my horse. >> Yeah. What do you want to do now? >> I know. Let's sell paper airplanes. >> I've never seen it made that way before. >> Yeah. Well, these things really fly high. >> Can I throw it? Sure. Throw it hard. >> Hey, stupid. Try and spook my horse. Do you know those guys, Joey? >> Yeah, but I don't like them much. Why not? >> Hey, I was right about that kid up there. Don't be Joey. >> You're like those other guys. Dumb. I don't care what you say. You call us dumb. You're the stupid one. You and your friends. >> Stupid. If they gave out candy bars for being smart, you guys wouldn't even get the rapper. >> You had it, Catman. Next week when school started, I found out nobody liked Joey. >> RANDY won't play. Have it your way, jerk. >> I was so mad. I didn't care what anybody said. For a while, I just played with Joey. I didn't want to make friends with jerks who made fun of people. Day by day though, I noticed that Joey never tried to make friends with anybody. It was almost like he wanted to be different. Sometimes Joey seemed to do stupid things to get people to make fun of him. >> If Joey was going to sit by himself all the time, I wasn't going to sit with him. I wanted to make friends and get a good start here. After school, I started hanging around with Bill and Chad. They were really nice guys, but they didn't like Joey either. They never teased Joey, but they kided me for playing with him. They knew all the neat places and things to do. But Joey wasn't in on anything. >> Tommy. Mom, you tell him I got to work and can't go out. >> I'm not going to lie for you. >> Oh, Tommy, >> you better go talk to him yourself. Can you play, Tommy? >> Uh, I don't feel very good. >> Are you sick? >> No. I just think I'll go lie down and take it easy. >> My dad says he thinks this might be a pretty good weekend for us to go paint Grandma's CE. >> Oh, that's good. We're going to call grandma tonight. You can go, can't you? >> I don't know. I'll have to go talk it over with mom and dad. You sure you don't feel good enough to play? >> How you doing? I'm sorry. I'm okay. I was really surprised today when you asked me to tell a lie to Joey. >> I don't know if I want to go to Joey's grandma's. >> Why not? >> Well, no one likes him at school. Kids pick on him. He asks for it. He doesn't try to make friends with anybody. And he does dumb things. >> Well, what would happen if you go paint with him? >> Well, it's just the way the guys will feel. I was just starting to make some new friends. And well, >> Tommy, if it's the apples you're worried about, please don't. We could use them, but we don't need them. But about that money you are going to earn for your horse. >> Well, I really want it, Mom. But I don't know. What do you think? Well, well, I think that the most important thing is that you think everything out really carefully. It's like when we decided to move here, there were just so many things to think about, like our friends. Of course, a big thing was dad's job. He has a lot of responsibility now. And we can put a little money away and Oh, your pigeons are doing nicely, aren't they? >> I don't know, son. I guess the more important a decision is, the harder it is to make. >> But how can you know you're making up your mind the best way? >> That's a hard one. You balance the goods and the bads both ways. And then you try to think ahead to what might happen and how you're going to feel later because you got to live with your decisions. Yeah. It's really important, Tommy, that you learn to make decisions you can live with. I laid awake thinking about what would happen if I went to Joy's grandma's and did the painting. >> TOMMY'S GOT PAINT ON HIS FACE. TOMMY'S GOT PAINT ON HIS FACE. >> If I did go, all the guys would find out for sure and and Joy probably brag about it. If if I went with Joe and got the money, I'd have to be his friend. Maybe the other guys would never really like me. Anyway, it'd be a long time. But if I didn't go with Joey and I wasn't his friend, he he wouldn't have any friends. I'd feel rotten. >> Okay, here you go, kid. Hurry in. >> I kept trying to balance the goods and the bad going with Joey. >> It would be great to earn 20 bucks. >> Okay, I hope you can get that, >> but it would be hard work. I didn't want to back out on Joey. He was my first friend here. And anyway, I felt sorry for him. But if I went, it'd be harder to make friends with gas were more fun. I wanted to help Joey and I got mad at the way people made fun of him. >> But why did you keep asking for it? >> Tommy, >> don't play with your food. Hey, Tommy. Not so fast. >> Mom told me about your problem. The decision you have to make. It's a tough one. Do you want to talk about it? >> No, I guess not. >> Please be tough. [music] >> I rode my bike way around town so I wouldn't have to go past Joey's house. I guess I thought if I just didn't see him, he wouldn't ask me to go and I wouldn't have to decide. It was the first time since school started that so many of the guys were so friendly to me. Tommy. >> Tommy, >> can you go with me to my grandma's to paint her chicken coop? To paint her chicken coop. To paint her chicken [laughter] coop. To paint her chicken coop. Supported by a consortium of 34 educational agencies. This program was produced by unit productions of the Utah State Board of Education under the supervision of AIT, Agency for Instructional Television.