Anatomy of a Teenage Engagement

Greenwood Bridge SP over a [Music] stream and on the [Music] rain [Music] he [Music] carved he [Music] carved the love [Music] we Greenwood [Music] brid that tassel doesn't do much for me I think you look rather sexy behind it you'd find something sexy about a funeral the proud but grinning parents you must have had a truce with your mother a rare study of inter Clan [Music] solidarity it surprised me how Dad could have smiled through it all hey here you are in all your glory why the modesty that bathing suit shows too much now here's one that shows too much you never looked more handsome you're being sarcastic dear I like this one the cheapest Rock on the beach don't kid about it well here's the last one two kids on the road to love and life you should have gotten a picture of us running off into that ditch still [Music] shelter names [Music] together I wish we were married and living on a hill somewhere or high up in some apartment building why oh I don't know so I could reach out and touch the sky sounds like your head's in the clouds already it is if I had my way I'd live on the run for a while why I'd like to see and live in all the big cities places like New York Houston Washington DC being stuck in one place as a drag on the nerves you should be an airplane pilot and you a stewardess I'll buy that one two [Applause] if you want my opinion sis you're making a mistake why you're too young you haven't got your life sorted out yet if I waited for that I'd probably be an old maid it's not all that bad I mean being divorced it's the same thing be smart and wait did you have a long enough engagement to learn anything just that Jack liked plenty of sex I mean anything that could help me don't get pregnant if you can help it what else I don't know we'll save up a little money it's a lie about two living cheaper than one well you make it all sound like a downhill proposition marry isn't for amateurs that's all who isn't an amateur when they start out know the boy for a year or so before you get me married you can learn a lot about a person in a year that was Barb's trouble she didn't have much of an engagement engaged one month married the next bad news for everybody were you engaged long no why oh we were just two hot blooded kids who couldn't wait so don't be hot blooded if you want a good marriage huh don't marry anybody you don't know marriage is a long old story you don't need to rush in to does that make sense well how long should an engagement be then four or five months to a year I remember it's it's not the length of an engagement that's important it's it's what you accomplish what do you mean well the problem of weaving two Lifestyles together this means adjusting to each other in a in a wide variety of ways like what oh finding out about your personalities your you're a tional habits what you want from Life maybe solving some of your religious differences and physical drives just about everything huh engagement is a time of intense communication yeah it is somewhere I read once where marriage failures are usually engagement failures you make it all sound a little scary in what way well I don't know just being engaged letting another person really get to know who you are that's the scary [Applause] part I want Dave to see me at my best like before we were engaged I realize someday he's going to have to see my other side too I mean he's going to know about it sooner or later maybe I have too many doubts about myself about having a future without Dave about our familyes being so different even doubts about keeping up with his education what would happen if I ever told him about all these worries would it change anything we talk about ourselves but do we ever really say [Music] anything what a exactly do we both want to hide Dave I want to love you so but somehow I'm [Music] afraid maybe being engaged is good for me I mean it's taught me to look at myself clearly am I really mature enough to share myself with another person I don't know I guess I've always been the loner who hates his loneliness but maybe everybody has that problem for some reason I've always needed things to do things to accomplish in order to feel important I why can't I feel important just being myself is that why I need Vicky around to register another accomplishment look World me and the All American Girl yeah so desirable but I'm afraid to lay a hand on her another one of Dave's Bittersweet accomplishments I have waken up a place like this someday this is a palace compared to ours it's not bad for a cage what are you doing taking a shower are you crazy no Dave stop fooling me who's fooling hey be gentle I like you when you're Wild don't don't what just don't well that was fast what do you want me to do apologize no maybe we shouldn't be engaged what do you mean I wouldn't think I had any rights to you who said you have any rights is this the way it's going to be after we're married no I thought we were supposed to thr out a little before we got married maybe I read the wrong textbook I don't know what we should do just keep our passion locked up all uptight and secure it's not that I don't want you to love me Dave then what do you want I don't know maybe if you to respect me is that something I have a right to ask yeah it doesn't mean we have to stop loving each other then what does it mean don't make me feel cold Dave I love you very much sure I want to believe there's more between us than just tumbling into bed there is I could use sex like my sister did only I just don't want to get trapped like that okay it's just not worth it Dave you know why you dated me in the beginning well it's true I've had experience more than I want to think about I suppose that's something you don't care to hear about no I'm not proud of my past but I don't want to be ashamed of my future too I understand I hope so well there It Is My Confession for the night Vicki what you're beautiful when you cry I don't feel very beautiful can I help you with anything mom no but you might check with your father he might need some help with the stakes uh but could you go easy tonight and no ice except in the drinks put these at this other place would you did you hear me Mom yes I heard you I didn't like this doesn't have to be a hazing ceremony I can't recall when I haven't been civil to her Dave try adding a little warm she's going to be my wife someday I'm sorry Dave I still can't get excited about that idea are you going to play the mother right down to The Bitter End all right Dave that's enough I thought you might need a little fortification sweetheart thanks what's the Skirmish about Dave seems to think I'm some sort of sculptured Iceberg around his girl that's unfair Dave I think we've both made considerable adjustment to this engagement Affair of yours don't call it an affair dad what would you prefer I call it just don't call it an affair are the steaks ready to grill yet all set well that must be Vicki how about it let's keep the knives on the table huh we can be glad she didn't bring her parents along M you can be a bit of a snob when you want to be yes ly I use it instead of your scotch well how did the Lords of the manner treat you last night okay did you have a good time yes Dave and I left early I found his mother awful formal at the graduation can't we talk about something else they're not my kind of people either then why marry one because Dave isn't like his parents yeah he lookes enough like the old man to fool me dad you don't know one thing about Dave George don't argue at the table well I may not know him like you but it doesn't take much to see what he is good days work probably kill a kid matter of the world today bunch of smart kids like him afraid to do a Dave's work Dave works with lumber yard he works as hard as you do is that the way he's going to support you pushing Lumber around no he plans to go to college in a year or so and who's going to pay for that I don't know we can both work yeah as soon as you put him through he'll get rid of you George eer peer yeah you two keep out of this Dad please well if you think that kid some sort of a white KN you need your eyes open oh he's looking for somebody to put him through school it Happ happens every day for your information dad his parents have offered to put him through school I'll believe that when I see him there don't worry I'll see to it that he gets through school oh I'll bet you one thing he's going to teach you about life the hard way yeah the same way you taught me all right you two now stop it yeah can't we ever have a meal in peace are you feeling tired no just Moody about what oh about things what things about you and me oh we don't seem to have the spark we once did yeah maybe we don't I miss it yeah I miss it too do you why do you think I don't I don't know you've had a lot on your mind lately do you do you ever have any doubts about being engaged yeah some what are they do I have to talk about it just now why not no reason I guess seems to me we're getting to be experts at not talking to each other okay so we should talk more what really bothers you Vicky that's hard to say oh afraid maybe you're not interested in marrying me anymore are you I'm not sure I'm glad you finally told me maybe maybe we don't fit together as well as we thought we did sure two kids who got drunk on a little Moonlight okay then you tell me what it is if you want to know the truth David it's because you think you're better than me Vicki you do you make me feel I'm not good enough for you Vicky I don't mean to what you do honey I'm not different than you I mean well I'm afraid of a lot of things too like what I'm afraid I'll get love and hate all mixed up if I touch you why that I hate myself for wanting you for feeling weak about it Dave don't ever hate yourself for wanting me sure I guess sometimes I get love and hate all mixed up too how I don't know maybe maybe hating myself for not being what you want me to be you don't have to change anything not for me yes I do Dave I want you to love me okay I don't know maybe I want the same things you do you know well not being afraid when you touch me you don't have to be afraid yes I do I don't know Vicki maybe being afraid is just a part of being young [Applause] [Applause] maybe did you ever have any doubts when you were were engaged to Terry sure what kind oh whether I was making a mistake marriage is like being locked in a cell with someone I didn't know if I could take the solitary confinement with Terry have you oh let's say I'm making an adjustment you make it sound rather Grim Walt living intimately with another person is a new experience it's a kind of confinement that's hard to describe would you do it over again I don't know I think if we were both older we'd be married to somebody different you've been married a few years haven't you yeah about six or seven maybe you recommend it what are you looking for a testimonial no just some idea of what I can expect well this isn't something I often do analyze my [Applause] marriage this might sound rather personal but to me a marriage is a mutual investment by two people in a common set of goals you know children friends lifestyles a whole range of things and if these Mutual goals and Investments aren't there marriage probably won't be much good exactly how confining is it you mean is a claustrophobic yeah well let it depend on the people involved with me it's always seemed like a home based to return to without it I'd probably feel pretty lost and empty you know that's true what you being romantic I've always thought you were teasing me but but now I see it's really a part of you like bone and blood and I thought it was just part of some teasing game I've used it that way too why because you don't have enough dreams to live by for some reason you don't trust your dreams to be truthful the only dream I let myself believe in is You and Me Maybe that's not enough for you huh it's a lovely dream Vicki but it isn't enough why not because if we're going to live together we need to dream together not one dream but many dreams well what dreams do you want me to have then what do you want me to dream for both of us I don't know because you're good at it you've got to one things for yourself honey I can't do that for you that's funny what being told to want something for myself to me dreaming is a part of being beautiful I thought I was beautiful already well only from your imagination on down I ought to slug you okay how about right here oh that was beautiful [Applause] that what are you looking so happy about nothing never heard of anybody being happy about nothing Dave yeah do you ever well wonder about us in what way oh about whether we know each other well enough to get married what do you think I don't know I guess then I don't know either at times I think I know you very well at other times you're only a beautiful stranger well you put it very well what about you and me well what do we do about the stranger then the beautiful stranger yeah what do we do about him her don't mock me Dave I'm not what are you really worried about honey I don't want to get into something that won't work out out I know what Barb went through Barb's marriage never had a chance you know that I guess I think being married you will solve all my problems I shouldn't be so unrealistic huh no you shouldn't oh it scares me I guess think marriage is so complicated I can't believe it's so tough we can't handle it you always seem so determined that's either Master thing things are B mastered you know something what I couldn't have told you about being scared 3 months ago that must mean something huh yeah you know I love to study your face when it's pented do you it's a part of that beautiful stranger I want to know someday you know Dave you do that all the time what oh the way you turn the smallest moments Into Sunshine that's me your old Sunshine [Applause] [Music] lover [Music] of one day soon will all the same [Music] stream the same dream we share since we stood there hand [Music] in